Found your soul mate? Feel that there may be something special between the two of you. But why hasn’t your significant other articulated their loving feelings for you yet, this can understandably begin to weigh on you and your well-being. But don’t worry, I am giving you a peek into some of the most common reasons as to why this may be happening.
By Shailene Amir
You may even start questioning the future of your relationship and where things are heading, but before you jump to conclusions, consider the reasons why your partner hasn’t said “I love you” yet. It could be something that the two of you can work through together, such as a fear of getting hurt. You might also be expecting too much too soon (if it hasn’t been that long, be patient!). Of course, there’s always the possibility they just don’t feel the same way about you as you do about them, but consider all possible reasons before assuming the worst.But here’s looking into what those reasons may probably be. You need to give your special someone some space as these can be creating a little hindrance to their ability to actually come out and express their feelings wholeheartedly.
A Hurting History
If you’re waiting for your partner to say “I love you,” it’s important to take a closer look at their relationship history. Many people are hesitant and cautious to make this kind of major love proclamation because they’ve been hurt or brokenhearted in the past. Maybe they were blindsided by a previous breakup or were betrayed by a former partner. There might be too many people confused and worried that the past experience may come back. Hence taking their time to recover from the heartbreak.
Another reason why your partner might not have said “I love you” is because they aren’t sure how you’d respond. It can be a frightening prospect to make this kind of bold and powerful declaration of love without knowing how the other person is going to react. Either they are hesitant on the kind of response they will be getting or they are worried that they may be coming on a little too strong.
Sometimes it’s not about you. Sometimes your special someone may be suffering from a string of personal worries which is affecting their relationship too. This may mean they have pertinent matters on their mind. When your partner is working through other issues and trying to manage everything that’s on their plate, you may not get to hear how much they care about you. But this does not mean that they don’t care about you.
Sometimes it may be more than what it seems. Your partner may seem distant because they are actually detached and are not sharing or expressing their feelings openly. This includes those people who are not able to open up and will not be able to share their true feelings completely. This leaves them in a completely vulnerable spot. Also there can be people who really don’t know how to express themselves openly. Plus, there are those who choose to keep everything bottled up inside because that’s what they’ve done from a young age. If your partner tends to be a bit quieter and closed-off, they may have a harder time articulating their loving feelings for you because they aren’t the type of person who expresses emotion with ease.
Express In Their Own Way
Sometimes an individual in a relationship may not be willing to take on the conventional road. While hearing your partner say “I love you” may mean the world to you, there are people who don’t say these magic words because they believe their feelings of love and devotion are already apparent to their partner. They don’t need to abide by the rules of a formal society when it comes to expressing their own emotions. For example, in your partner’s mind, they may show you they love you by sending you text messages each morning, surprising you with gifts, and spending as much time as they can with you. For them, these actions are just as powerful as saying “I love you,” because that’s how they express their feelings for you. And this is where you draw the line and understand how your special person is different from others. And their way of expressing is just as good enough.
Just Not Ready
And finally sometimes it isn’t as complicated as it seems. Sometimes the answer is simple- they are just not ready. You should look into the fact why your partner may simply not be ready to tell you they love you because they aren’t there yet. Remember that every relationship moves at its own pace, and there’s no one-size-fits-all timetable that a person needs to follow when it comes to professing loving feelings for a partner. For instance, some people say, “I love you,” after three months of being together, while others say these three important words after a year. So it all comes down to every individual’s own framework and how they move along. Forcing something may just be yielding an opposite response.